"Two things a man should never be angry at:
What he can help, and what he cannot help."
~Thomas Fuller
Flow Charts can be really helpful for us to really see the path that an attitude or idea takes as we experience it. I love how this chart (created by Man Alive and Associates) brings us from the feelings of powerlessness that lead us into Anger to the "situation changes" and back to Powerful and Healed! It also indicates that if we do not change our strategy, we recycle the anger and so the vicious cycle continues. Which just goes to show you that Letting go of Anger is the path to Healing.
Here are some statistics about ANGER for you from the Web. When it comes to anger, studies have shown that:
Almost a third of people polled (32%) say they have a close friend or family member who has trouble controlling their anger
More than one in ten (12%) say that they have trouble controlling their own anger
More than one in four people (28%) say that they worry about how angry they sometimes feel
One in five of people (20%) say that they have ended a relationship or friendship with someone because of how they behaved when they were angry
64% either strongly agree or agree that people in general are getting angrier
Wow! While anger is unpleasant, we must remember that it is a completely normal emotion. As a normal emotion that you simply pass through, letting the feelings flow through and away from you, anger is not particularly harmful. It is when we allow ourselves to fill with anger that it becomes harmful to our being and our relationships.
The attitude of ANGER is destructive to balance and harmony in the body. IT is the feeling of "I'm not getting my way and I don't like it!" ANGER is a force that can separate the soul from the body as it creates such an intense, destabilizing energy within.
According to a study of more than 1,000 people at a Western Electric factory in Chicago, over a 25-year period, those with anger management problems were at a high risk of dying from coronary problems, as well as cancer. Chronic anger is also linked with weakening of the immune system, leading to life-threatening illnesses.
Anger affects the function of Liver and Gallbladder Energy in the body as well as Blood Essence and can manifest in alcohol addiction.
The opposite of ANGER is Harmony & Balance. To balance anger, HOLD the MIDDLE FINGER for about 5 minutes or until you can feel a gentle rhythmic pulsing. Even and clear. Breath easily. Relax the shoulders and smile from the very heart of you.
As you hold the MIDDLE FINGER, the destructive feelings of anger begin to dissipate. The Middle Finger is the General Harmonizer of the body. It is powerful for the respiratory system and promotes good digestive function while releasing tension from the knees. As we come into balance, we increase our capacity for compassion and reinstate harmony.
Hold your middle finger whenever you feel "out of balance." As Tomas Merton once wrote, "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance, order, rhythm and harmony." Holding the middle finger will remind you that balance is where you really want to live. Funny, isn't it, that often the middle finger is used to express Anger! Why not use it to balance and clear anger?
“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.”
~Buddha